There Is Time For Everything
Written By Viano Dee
There was a time in our lives when we were just kids– kids who just wanted to play and have fun. Then we became teenagers who just wanted to grow and become adults (because adulthood looked like fun from our perspective). Tada!!! Adulthood finally came but in a totally confusing package– this isn’t what we dreamed of!
Adulthood is hard! Sometimes fun but mostly hard!
Now, there are responsibilities. We’ve got jobs to do and bills to pay– things we didn’t have to worry about when we were younger.
In fact some of were upset when we asked for things and didn’t get them. Now, we get it. If we knew then what we know now, we probably wouldn’t have been in a hurry to grow up. We would have enjoyed those moments, loved our parents more and truly appreciated them.
Adulthood is complicated. No one really understands it. We just go ahead and do what we think we should. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. A method could work for someone at the same time, flop for someone else.
Everything may not go as planned, they could take another direction. For instance, you thought you’d get a job in a big company but you find yourself working in a grocery store. You’re sad because this isn’t what you planned. Meanwhile, some of your colleagues seem to be doing way better and then you think something is wrong with you. You are so overwhelmed by how great others are doing that you do not even realize that you are better than some others. What do you do? You sulk and sink into depression. All you want to do is fit in.
And that is where the problem lies. You can’t fit in because your story is unique. Your journey leads to a different path and as long as you’re constantly using other peoples’ storylines to tell your story, you are going to end up with a story that isn’t yours. There is a reason a nose drop can’t serve as an eye drop. Though they both have two openings, they are different and so are their functions.
When you begin to understand your purpose and accept your uniqueness, that’s when you truly start living. It doesn’t matter what the current situation is, what matters is how patient you are willing to be to get through the process.
It may not seem pleasant and you may feel left out but that’s okay, it’s the process. It’s the same way clay is different from wood which is different from steel. Clay is molded and burnt in order to become an earthenware. Wood is sawed and nailed to fit whatever purpose it is designed for and steel must go through the hottest fire and be hammered into shape.
Even at that, the process is different for each purpose. The number of nails that would go into a door is different from the number of nails that will go into a shelf or a cupboard, yet both are made of wood. Can you imagine if the door has more nails than it should because it’s trying to look like a shelf? Do you get where I am going with this?
Dear adult, the worst thing you can do to yourself is to compare yourself to someone else. It’s okay if you’re aging and you’re not yet married — there are people who have rushed into marriage and are miserable simply because they kept using other peoples’ timelines.
You may be currently unemployed, that’s fine. The process may just be leading you to discover who you truly are. You may just end up being your own boss.
Are you married without kids? Be patient. There are those whose kids have brought them much pain and have even sent them to an early grave.
Listen, there is time for everything. Everything has a season. Everyone has a time frame. Each one is walking a different journey with a different purpose. No one is the same. Embrace your uniqueness. Trust God and trust the process. You’ll be alright eventually.
Have a lovely week ahead!
— Viano Dee
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