There Is Purpose In Your Pain

There Is Purpose In Your Pain

There Is Purpose In Your Pain

Written by Stephanie Chuks (Contributor)

Last year, a young boy sent me a message on Facebook. According to him, he had already written his suicide note and planned to take his life the next morning if help did not come to his raging soul. Somehow, he had the nudging to inbox me which he did. He was not even my Facebook friend.

I replied the same day (so unlike me) and we got talking. He poured out all his heart and how suicide seems to be the only and best option at the time. He wanted to end the pain once and for all.

After listening to him, I broke down all his situations into tiny little bits and showed him how powerless all of them (put together) were compared to his life. (He was indeed going through a lot). I told him that there are people going through this same issue who are waiting for him to pass through this phase so he can help them out.

If he proceeds to end his life, who will help those people? He broke down and resolved not to take his life no matter the circumstance. He left my inbox thanking me profusely. Today, he is doing very well and bubbling in the joy of his youth.

Each time he sends me a Dm, he repeatss the words “I owe you ma. I might not be able to pay you back now, but someday I will”. My reply is always a smile…

Sometimes we don’t know how much of a blessing we can be in people’s lives by our little actions of love. (As little as choosing to develop yourself is also a kind act of love). We don’t know what people are going through or what resolutions they have made before crossing our path.

There are usually two option– we either to aggravate the pain or be a blessing to them. And blessings can come in different ways; a kind word, a compliment, an encouraging smile, a warm hug, a helping hand, or even a loving rebuke.

Be a blessing to someone who may never be able to repay you. The ripples are endless. This young boy may never be able to completely pay me back all his life, but does it really matter? What matters is that our path crossed and I was a blessing to him……and it didn’t end there, his generation will benefit from that singular encounter. I would never have known that if I didn’t give him the attention that day. He most likely would have been a dead guy the next morning.

Let us remember that each day we live, we have two options. We either add to the existing problems of this world or become a blessing to someone in our own little way. No matter how little. It could be little to you but mean a lot to someone else.

Lights do not enter a darkened environment to conform to the status quo but to express illumination in their own little ways even in the midst of all the darkness around them.

Share your thoughts.

Stephanie Chuks

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Stephanie Chuks

Stephanie Chuks is a Self-Identity coach, a Public Speaker, A Creative Writer and a youth mentor. She helps young confused people discover their dominant uniqueness and their life's purpose thereby helping them live a life of impact and maximum fulfillment free from depression, low self-esteem and identity crisis. She is from Obowo local government in Imo State, Nigeria. She has helped a lot of young confused people understand their identity through her group mentorship training, her One on one coaching sessions and her impactful Articles. She is passionate about what she does and she does it with so much zeal and mastery.

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Thats amazing! And so true, it’s always good to find the good things in every situation. Or at least understand that it gets better


You did a good thing there… makes me remember, naturally, the times I wasn’t so compassionate with people. Live and learn.


Very true. You did the right thing. Staying positive improves our mental health.


I am so glad you replied to him; I couldn’t imagine ignoring a message like that. As heartbreaking as it is, my (very small) group of friends often need to lean on each for support as we don’t have the best mental health. Whilst we have definitely gotten through the worst stages of life – as we had rough up bringings, and life is certainly brighter now that we’re older – it can still get real dark sometimes, but knowing that we have each other is part of what keeps of going. For me at least, and I hope for them too. I can’t imagine life without them, and I hope they know that I’d do anything for them, regardless of whether they could “pay me back” or not.

Kristine Nicole Alessandra

You are indeed a blessing to this young man. You saved his life and I know he will be forever grateful that you were there for him when he was at the lowest point in his life. I am so touched by your kindness and your compassion to help this person in need. God bless you!


You hit on a very important truth: Who we truly are is greater than any situation before us. Every act of love is indeed a miracle.


It sounds like he was lucky to have contacted Stephanie. Not all may have responded but the fact that she did and in such a well executed way literally saved a life.

Britt | Not Your Mom's Gifts

I love the message of this post. So glad that young boy reached out to you & I’m so glad you chose to show him love rather than add to his pain. I believe what goes around comes around, & I have no doubt your kindness will come back to you 10x ❤️

Melanie williams

Wow what a powerful piece and from all accounts it shows that there are still some good people out there. Love this x

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