There Is Purpose In Your Pain
Written by Stephanie Chuks (Contributor)
Last year, a young boy sent me a message on Facebook. According to him, he had already written his suicide note and planned to take his life the next morning if help did not come to his raging soul. Somehow, he had the nudging to inbox me which he did. He was not even my Facebook friend.
I replied the same day (so unlike me) and we got talking. He poured out all his heart and how suicide seems to be the only and best option at the time. He wanted to end the pain once and for all.
After listening to him, I broke down all his situations into tiny little bits and showed him how powerless all of them (put together) were compared to his life. (He was indeed going through a lot). I told him that there are people going through this same issue who are waiting for him to pass through this phase so he can help them out.
If he proceeds to end his life, who will help those people? He broke down and resolved not to take his life no matter the circumstance. He left my inbox thanking me profusely. Today, he is doing very well and bubbling in the joy of his youth.
Each time he sends me a Dm, he repeatss the words “I owe you ma. I might not be able to pay you back now, but someday I will”. My reply is always a smile…
Sometimes we don’t know how much of a blessing we can be in people’s lives by our little actions of love. (As little as choosing to develop yourself is also a kind act of love). We don’t know what people are going through or what resolutions they have made before crossing our path.
There are usually two option– we either to aggravate the pain or be a blessing to them. And blessings can come in different ways; a kind word, a compliment, an encouraging smile, a warm hug, a helping hand, or even a loving rebuke.
Be a blessing to someone who may never be able to repay you. The ripples are endless. This young boy may never be able to completely pay me back all his life, but does it really matter? What matters is that our path crossed and I was a blessing to him……and it didn’t end there, his generation will benefit from that singular encounter. I would never have known that if I didn’t give him the attention that day. He most likely would have been a dead guy the next morning.
Let us remember that each day we live, we have two options. We either add to the existing problems of this world or become a blessing to someone in our own little way. No matter how little. It could be little to you but mean a lot to someone else.
Lights do not enter a darkened environment to conform to the status quo but to express illumination in their own little ways even in the midst of all the darkness around them.
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