The Positive Side of Pain
When one thinks of pain, what usually comes to the mind is discomfort, distress, suffering, sorrow, agony—and truly speaking, no one likes to go through pain. Unfortunately, we can’t escape it because it is part of life but we can choose how to deal with it.
There are people who end up being bitter and unforgiving when they pass through pain (which differs by the way), this is so because they have dwelt on the negative side of it and have refused to see the beauty in it.
As contradictory as this may sound, there’s some truth in it. Pain comes with sorrow but there are always lessons to learn.
Whatever the type of pain— heartbreak, labour pain, hard work, rape, sickness, persecutions—there are always positive sides. The problem is, sometimes people refuse to see beyond their pain thus leading to chronic depression, anxiety, and even death.
Let’s take a look at some positive side of pain.
Pain makes you stronger and tougher; wiser and better:
Pain makes you realize that you are survivor. There is a well known saying that goes: “what does not kill you makes you stronger.”
This is very true because pain reshapes your character, transforms your thinking and teaches you important lessons.
Pain makes you learn from mistakes which in turn allows you to re-strategize. You come up with better plans and ideas. You become a better person— a wiser person.
For instance, let’s say you’re in a relationship. You give your time and all to your significant other but they don’t do same for you. Instead they mistreat you and treat you like dirt.
You love them so much but you are more aware that you deserve better so you take the step to let it go.
It hurts—but you’re ready to move on and the whole time, you cry and struggle to put yourself together until you finally get back on your feet.
You’d realize that the next time you decide to go into a relationship, you would be more careful, more observant and you will set higher standards thus making you a more sophisticated individual— someone with zero tolerance for bullshit. This reminds me of a quote by Angelina Jolie:
“Without pain, there would be no suffering, without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life. ”
Pain can make you a source of inspiration to others
When you go through the pain and you share your experiences(s) with others, people can get inspired. There will always be people with similar experiences who’d learn from you.
They will say to themselves: “Well, this person has gone through this thing I am going through right now and they didn’t die. If they can go through this stuff and come out of it, then I can too”.
They will be encouraged to stay strong and be inspired to stand tall. Billy Graham’s words come in handy here—he said:
“Out of pain and problems have come the sweetest songs, and the most gripping stories.”
Pain makes it possible for you to easily relate to a similar situation
Sometimes when people share their experiences, others can only imagine but will never know what it means to be in that situation.
For example, someone might share an experience about how they had once been homeless—someone who has never been homeless will not fully comprehend what it means to go through such an experience whereas you who have gone through the same or similar experience will know exactly what it means and how it feels.
Pain makes you compassionate towards others
When you see others go through pain or you hear their stories, you become emotional and compassionate. You may not have gotten help when you were in that situation and you understand what it feels like to be alone.
Pain puts you in a position where you just want to assist so it doesn’t have to be as terrible as yours.
Pain teaches you endurance and makes you courageous
Until you pass through pain, you will never know what endurance is. It teaches how to be patient. It inspires you to face your fears. Mary Tyler Moore says:
“Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.”
Pain teaches you gratitude
After all is said and done, you will certainly understand why you had to go through all you went through. It teaches you gratitude and humbles you. Pain teaches you to value joy and be grateful for life— just as Tom Corr said:
“God gave us pain to remind us we are alive, so we will learn to value the joys and beauty of the world.”
So if you ever feel like giving up, remember that pain is unavoidable but God will never give you more than what you can bear.
Everything you’re going through is for a reason; it will last only a season. You are in training for a spectacular purpose. You are being refined. Pain is not designed to break you; it is designed to make you the person you are meant to be.
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