Self-love Is Important!
Written by Stephanie Chuks (Contributor)
You can’t afford to not love yourself. You have to do this because the best of men can fail you. People will walk out on you and act like the friendship never happened– like the love never existed.
They will act like the times you guys spent together meant nothing — no big deal! It is left for you to live with a shattered heart or learn to move on and live your best life. Before you meet people, you are supposed to have a healthy self-love FIRST.
If your happiness is dependent on another person’s love for you, it means the day they walk away from you, they walk away with everything; everything you are and have! They walk away with every bit of you and they harvest your heart too and leave you heartless (in a friend’s voice ).
But if self-love is something you already have and they finally walk away for whatever reason, you may feel bad for a few days, months maybe, but soon after you will jump-start your life and live. Here’s the thing: people can fail you and you know why? It is because as humans, there are imperfections hidden within us, tendencies that we didn’t even know we possess and there can even be situations that are beyond us too.
This means that sometimes, good things come to an end. A perfect relationship can go to ruins in split seconds. Love can fade. If self-love wasn’t something you practiced before, you’d feel utterly useless and incapable of living. Don’t hang your happiness on the love people express to you. If they walk away, so be it! If they stay back, fine!
The scripture says love your neighbor as you love yourself not love yourself the way your neighbor loves you. That is because God expects that you should love who he has created you to be–wholly. Love yourself unapologetically. Love yourself with God’s affection because you know, you can’t offer what you don’t have. You can’t give out love if love is not flowing first from within.
When you give yourself enough love, it will be easier for you to love others too. And if there are people who don’t love or value you, then they have no business being in your life. Don’t dwell on it. That is their individual opinion. It doesn’t define you.
If they act like the times you guys spent together and the memories didn’t matter, it’s okay. They were there for a reason in the first place. It just means that their time in your life is up. You will miss them quite alright and probably cry for a while. but when it’s all over, you’ll smile and cherish the memory knowing that there are better opportunities and amazing people ahead.
So if you do love yourself and they leave you, you will have a soft landing. Don’t dwell so much in the past that you miss out on what the future has to offer you.
Dear reader, love yourself first!
Is self-love something you practice or does your happiness depend on others? Share your thoughts.
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