Obsessive Lovers: Rant
Today, I feel like ranting. I’m pissed at people who cannot manage their emotions and proceed to do drastic things in order to get what they want.
Is it a form of mental illness? Is it possession? Can we call it a combination of both? Honestly, I don’t know.
But I find it strange and highly unreasonable to cause people pain just because they won’t reciprocate your love. I mean, make it make sense!
Would you want to have any form of intimacy with someone you don’t love? We all know the obvious answer is no! So why force someone into loving you — knowing full well that if they stay, it’s simply out of fear and not of love. It is ridiculous, pretentious and just outrageous.
When someone says, “If I can’t have you, no one will”, that’s not just a statement; it’s a threat. And no, that isn’t love; it is obsession.
Sad thing is that in some cases, obsessive people are excellent pretenders. They portray a version of themselves they want you to love, then go ballistic when they feel any form of withdrawal.
If you’ve seen the movie ‘Gone Girl‘, you’ll get the perfect picture. It’s the level of manipulation for me. How deranged does one have to be to pull off such stunts? Blackmail. False accusations. Mind games. These are not things anyone should go through. Such things affect people for years — if at all they ever recover.
If you find out your loved one wants to leave, let them! Love isn’t forceful! If they aren’t interested in working things out with you, let them go. Yes, you’ll be hurt. Yes, healing may take some time but at least you won’t be living a lie.
It’s delusional to think that forcing someone to stay will make them love you. How much hate does your heart brew that you think it’s okay to manipulate someone into staying?
Sigh. The world is full of sick, twisted souls. One can’t begin to imagine what people have gone through with obsessive lovers.
I guess we all need to pray for the Spirit of discernment and wisdom at all times. And we need to recognize those red flag and flee immediately we notice them.
It’s a scary place out there. Be watchful, careful and prayerful.
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