Mend Your Broken Piece!

Mend Your Broken Piece!

Mend your broken piece!

Written by Stephanie Chuks

So you grew up with abusive parents who constantly insulted you and made you feel less of a human being for every mistake you made growing up. Then you went along and met your school teachers who reminded you that nothing good could come out of your empty head.

And while you were trying to pick up the broken pieces, you met friends who constantly mocked you in the name of jokes. They sneered at your body parts and compared them to unimaginable things as a way of making fun of you.

Even though you mocked them back and you guys laughed it off as a harmless joke, you went back home feeling dejected. You wondered if what they said was true and connected what your friend said today with what your father told you the previous week.

There you were trying to find the truth. “What if they were right?“, you whispered to yourself. They couldn’t all be wrong, you thought. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months, and then years. Now you’re grown but not without a terribly shattered self-esteem that disguises itself as “humility”– false humility to be precise.

Despite that, you act all tough but then the tiny little voice of criticism breaks you down and so, in a bid to avoid being criticized, you have become an over-reactive person. This prompts you to attack and block out anyone who opposes you even though they mean no harm.

But what happens when the main criticism is coming from within you? What happens when you are your worst critic? You’re so used to being put down by others and now you do it to yourself.

Listen, you have to let it go. Enough is enough. There is no need to hold on to the past. Do not let people hold you captive with their words. Write a new script, turn a new leaf. Be a little kinder to yourself and enjoy the moment. There’s so much more life has to offer but it starts with you.

Mend your broken piece. Will you?

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Stephanie Chuks

Stephanie Chuks is a Self-Identity coach, a Public Speaker, A Creative Writer and a youth mentor. She helps young confused people discover their dominant uniqueness and their life's purpose thereby helping them live a life of impact and maximum fulfillment free from depression, low self-esteem and identity crisis. She is from Obowo local government in Imo State, Nigeria. She has helped a lot of young confused people understand their identity through her group mentorship training, her One on one coaching sessions and her impactful Articles. She is passionate about what she does and she does it with so much zeal and mastery.

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Well, this definitely hit home. Honestly, it’s like you lived my actual life, and then wrote a blog post about it 😅 Unfortunately, you just can’t just “let go” of living with so much abuse and criticism for 18 years. It gets a little easier as time goes by, but it will always be with me.

Reply to  Indy

I did because I have been in that shoe and I have experienced the pain associated with it. I almost committed suicide in my own case but God us faithful.😀


This is such a great piece, letting go can be difficult but it’s definitely worth it at the end to let one heal and move on.

Reply to  Joan

True words.

Bethan TaylorSwaine

I think it’s very easy to say you should let go of the past, but it’s a totally different thing actually doing it. It took me years to realise that I didn’t have to let past experiences define me, and then just as long to move on from those experiences (with lots of steps back along the way). What I will say is that the journey was worth it x


The journey is always worth it. If you didn’t take the step, no one will take it for you thus, you are totally responsible for the outcome of your life.

Cocoa Mom

Very good read. I still hold on to some words from my past. I have learned to handle myself better.

Reply to  Cocoa Mom

You have the sole responsibility of taking care of your self; nobody will do that for you.


The words ,”But what happens when the main criticism is coming from within you? What happens when you are your worst critic? You’re so used to being put down by others and now you do it to yourself.” hit me hard. But sometimes its not easy to let go because because after all these all u have developed is a severe trust issue, inferiority complex and anxiety.

Reply to  Monidipa

That is so true. And developing those complexes can affect your whole life negatively if care is not taken.

blair villanueva

This is a good read. Back in my younger years, I also received lots of criticism from my parents. Did I see it wrong? Probably yes back when I was a kid. But after years of adulthood, I realized those criticisms helped me to become a better person I am now, and making my parents so proud. Without those criticism, I might be as confident as I am now. I felt grateful 🙂


Hmm! You were lucky to have come out strong. Some other people don’t usually recover from it because it usually bruises their self-esteem thereby making them feel like a nonentity all their life.


Beautiful lines. Criticism can be everywhere and anytime but we have to let it go to start fresh.

Reply to  Namrata

If you don’t let go, you can’t move on with your life. 😀

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