How To Share An Opinion Without Being Hateful
Today’s world has become so politically correct. Everything and anything can in a split second become offensive. People are easily triggered by opinions that differ from theirs and are quick to spew out hateful words or/and comments. It is baffling.
The world is already a crazy place and the last thing anyone needs is an extra dose of hate. We have to understand that people are different, so are their views and experiences. There are things that contribute to how opinions are formed. Such are religious beliefs, perceptions, culture, experiences, and social influences.
When one recognizes this, it’d go a long way in understanding why people think, react, or behave the way they do. However, in all of these, we need to also acknowledge that there are some things that can’t be altered no matter how hard we try. What this means is there are hard facts that cannot even be disputed. Because somehow, even the conscience will bear witness — except of course the conscience is silenced. I believe we already know some of these vices. That being said, let’s see some things to note when sharing an opinion.
Things to note when sharing an opinion
Understand that not everyone will not agree with you: As I stated earlier, people are different and so are their views therefore not everyone will see things the way you do. Don’t be upset about it. On the contrary, be glad. Why? Because it will open your eyes to other perspectives and you’ll have an idea of why they reason the way they do. This in turn will either strenghten your opinion or make you question it. At the end of the day, it’s a win-win.
Be open-minded: Have it at the back of your mind that you may be wrong. There are certain things that we may have believed in the past but don’t agree with now because we understand better. It is all part of growth.
Even if you aren’t wrong, be open to learning. Just because you don’t agree with someone doesn’t mean you can’t learn a thing or two from them.
Do not shut up or yell at someone whose opinion differs from yours: Okay this happens a lot. It doesn’t make sense that you shut someone up but expect to be heard. It doesn’t work that way. Shutting up someone because you disagree with them shows a lack of tolerance. Yelling at or over them prevents them from airing their views. It would feel as though you are the only one entitled to an opinion.
Agreed, some opinions are way out of this world but even then, understanding is key. Listen to what they are saying. Make sure you understand it. Then give yours and let it go back and forth till you both either come to a compromise or agree to disagree. Life is not that hard.
Deal with the topic, not the person: I cannot emphasize this enough. If you’re sharing an opinion with someone who disagrees with you, DO NOT extend your dislike of that topic to the person. There is no need to be abusive and hateful. Make your points respectfully.
At the end of the day, we can agree to disagree and it’s not a bad thing. In fact, that is what makes a healthy conversation. You say your points, I say mine. If we agree, we agree. If we don’t, we don’t. That should not make us enemies. We can respect people and their opinions even if they do not agree with us and ours.
This quote here sums it all up:
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”Rick Warren
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