Be Grateful For Who You Are!

Be Grateful For Who You Are!

Be Grateful For Who You Are

Written by Stephanie Chuks (Contributor)

A lady once told me she hated herself and she wondered why everybody hated her for no reason. Then I asked her a question; “if you hate yourself, why do you want others to like something you hate? Don’t you think it is wicked to want us to like something you hate?”

You can’t genuinely love others if you hate yourself. You should learn to love yourself first. This in turn will attract more love to your life. People who hate themselves attract hatred while people who love themselves attract love.

There are certain things about your body that you can’t change, embrace those things, be comfortable in your skin. Many times we desire to be like someone else, talk like them, act like them, and because of that, we always end up neglecting our own uniqueness.

For example, I have heard certain people tell me that I have big eyes, and I smile and tell them that I love them the way they are because I see things others can’t see. And when they tell me that I have a big nose, I laugh and tell them it is because I need more oxygen than they do.

I even add a little humour to it. I tell them not to stay in the same room as me for their own good. The reason being that they may have no air to breathe because my nose will trap it all. Haha!

Sometimes, making jokes about yourself causes bullying to die off. No one laughs at a man who laughs at himself first, it is a waste of time. So don’t give your critics something to feast on. You should learn that what people think about you is not your identity; it is just their individual opinion– and opinions can be wrong after all.

Opinions are very cheap because everybody has one. You have the sole responsibility for protecting your self-esteem. Don’t leave it at the mercy of people who have lost access to wise control over their utterances. Add humor to your life. God didn’t make any mistake while he was creating you. You were wonderfully made both in his image and his likeness.

Your physical appearance is the way it is because it was designed that way for a purpose. Desiring to be like someone else is futile. The fish was designed to live in water. What it can effectively do inside water, the lion cannot do half of it even with all its strength.

So my dear reader, be comfortable in your skin and most importantly, be grateful for how you were created. That very part you are unhappy about is what someone else is wishing they had. You worry that your feet are too large, someone else is wishing they had feet. Cultivate the habit of saying “I am grateful for….” Instead of “I wish I had this and that”.

Being grateful for the little things makes you a more optimistic person — which in turn makes you a better person.

So tell me, what are you grateful for? Drop your comments.

Stephanie Chuks

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Stephanie Chuks

Stephanie Chuks is a Self-Identity coach, a Public Speaker, A Creative Writer and a youth mentor. She helps young confused people discover their dominant uniqueness and their life's purpose thereby helping them live a life of impact and maximum fulfillment free from depression, low self-esteem and identity crisis. She is from Obowo local government in Imo State, Nigeria. She has helped a lot of young confused people understand their identity through her group mentorship training, her One on one coaching sessions and her impactful Articles. She is passionate about what she does and she does it with so much zeal and mastery.

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Ashley Jones

What a great quote to live by!


So true! You can’t expect others to truly like you if you don’t even like yourself.


You struck on a salient truth: Self-love is an energy that draws more love to us. It’s our duty to protect our minds from negative influences.

Charlotte Petit Noble

I am so grateful for you and your post. You make me feel love and gratitude which is exactly what I need right now. Thank you for reminding to be grateful for my life and for everything that touches it.

Kristine Nicole Alessandra

I always love reading your inspiring and motivational articles. I have a lot to be grateful for, and I am guilty of overlooking these blessings. I am thankful for my parents who raised me to be who I am today. My family who loves me despite my flaws and outbursts of emotions. I am simply grateful to wake up every morning and live life.


accepting your self gives a lot of freedom and joy to me every day. I am thankful for achieving it


That was a really powerful opening! There’s nothing like a mirror held by someone else to help you see yourself. Well to answer your question, I am so grateful for my life and the time I have to myself!

Regan Thacker

I don’t always love myself, but I have always been pretty good at sharing my kindness and love with others. It’s like a little light that shines from within and still makes me loveable I guess. I’m grateful for having a partner who takes me on adventures and supports me when I am struggling due to ill health.


I love this so much. The piece was like speaking to my soul, and telling me that it is time I become bigger than everyone’s opinions of me. Thank you so much for this post. I love it so so so much and it makes me want to really improve the way I see things.

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