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7 Things That Ruin Relationships.
Everyone wants to have a great relationship. No one is ever like: “I really would love to have a terrible, horrible relationship that would make me question my existence.” I’ve never heard anyone say that and if such people exists, they definitely have a mental problem.
With that being said, here are 7 things that ruin relationships:
Lies
This is the number one culprit. This alone has the power to destroy a relationship no matter how great it has been.
We all lie for different reasons sometimes — knowingly or unknowingly — even though we know it’s not right. Those who have not silenced their consciences feel bad and try as much as possible not to make it a habit.
But the way some people lie, one would think that they have bagged a PhD in lying. It’s like they have been tutored by the devil himself.
They lie effortlessly and skillfully. Lies create distrust. If your partner has to question everything you say, your relationship is gradually heading for destruction.
Comparison
Every individual is created the way they are; no two people are exactly the same — not even twins who are born the same day. On no account should you compare your partner to another person.
This makes them feel less of themselves. If there’s something that they are not doing right, reach out to them with love and care. Help them correct their wrongs — that’s why you’re there. If they don’t change and the issues are things you can’t cope with — leave.
Lack of Communication
Communication is key in every relationship. Partners ought to be comfortable enough to express how they feel to each other. It helps the relationship to grow. There’s no point wearing a frown all day while your partner tries frantically to figure out what’s wrong with you. Just say it!
It saves time and gets the issue resolved as soon as possible. Your partner is not psychic. And even if they were, I’m pretty sure they’d rather use their powers for more important things like finding the dog or knowing when the next cheque is coming in.
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Lack of connection and companionship
Sometimes, people go into relationships without concrete reasons. When the reason they decided to go into the relationship fades, they lose touch. They emotionally withdraw. This can and will definitely ruin a relationship.
This is why it is necessary to be friends with your partner. Get to connect with them as much and as often as you can. If your partners feel as though they are single while they are in a relationship with you — it won’t be long before the relationship crumbles.
Insecurity/ Unnecessary suspicion
Insecurity can cause a great havoc in any relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner especially when they are open to you. You can’t go around sniffing for information that does not exist. Stop putting yourself under unnecessary pressure. Get busy because when you have things to do, being an FBI agent investigating a scene with no crime is last thing you’ll find yourself doing.
Manipulation/ Selfishness
Relationships are all about giving and receiving. You need to consider your partner when making decisions. You can’t afford to be selfish neither should you take advantage of your partner. No one wants to be used.
Some partners are very manipulative. They have a way of getting what they want without considering how their wants affect their significant other. Things cannot always go in favour of one person. If so, the relationship will eventually fade away.
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Bad Company
One needs to be particular about the kind of company one associates with. It is said that bad company corrupts good manners. The kind of friends you keep will eventually rob off on you. The last thing anybody wants is for their significant other to start exhibiting a terrible unruly character. So if you want to become a better person even in your relationship, associate with people who will influence you positively otherwise you may likely kiss your relationship goodbye.
Did I miss any? Share your thoughts.
